Why does my voice shake when i speak up?
Friday, 10:02 a.m. I’m in a meeting room that smells like whiteboard ink and stale croissants. My manager says, “Tell everyone about the new project.”...
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## so, do affirmations even count if your inner critic is yelling “liar”?...
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Yesterday I left my reusable cup at home and walked to work empty-handed. Same street, same people, but suddenly my shoulders crept up and my thoughts...
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## what failure feels like when all eyes lock on you ...
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## the weird body-language glitch nobody flagged in school...
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## why that two-second stare feels like an interrogation lamp ...
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## intro: the flashing cursor and the mini panic attack...
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## intro – the moment your throat turns into a trampoline ...
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Read moreHow can i foster warmth in a written introduction email?
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## i’m in line for coffee, again, questioning my entire existence ...
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## let’s acknowledge the elephant in the group chat ...
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Read moreWhy do confident speakers vary their vocal pitch?
So I’m standing at the back of a packed meetup, cold coffee in one hand, phone in the other. First speaker steps up. His voice skates from low and war...
Read moreWhy does social anxiety make me avoid new opportunities?
Call it a Wednesday thing: my phone buzzed with a message - “We’re hiring freelance writers, want to apply?” Easy gig, decent pay, remote. I stared at...
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I used to glue my elbows to my ribs at parties. Safer that way, right? Less real estate for judgment. One night a friend leaned in and whispered, “Dud...
Read moreAre virtual avatars training wheels for real-life interaction?
I’m hunched over my desk wearing a plastic headset that makes me look like a bug. In the mirror I’m a mess; in VRChat I’m a seven-foot neon fox with f...
Read moreIs journaling or voice-noting better for me?
Tuesday, 7:52 a.m. I’m half-dressed, hunting for socks, and anxious thoughts are already hosting a rave in my skull. I grab a notebook to dump the noi...
Read moreCan you "catch" social anxiety from friends or family?
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Read moreIs storytelling equally powerful across cultures?
## intro: a chatty coffee line and a nagging question ...
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## the cold open: laptop fans, sweaty palms, fifteen little squares ...
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## the moment you realise the conversation is dying ...
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Four hours before my sister’s wedding I was hiding in a hotel bathroom, tie half-done, reciting the best-man speech to my own reflection. Steam from a...
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I’m wedged between the coat rack and the punch bowl at my aunt’s place, pretending to study the wallpaper while an uncle I barely know explains crypto...
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I’m staring at the webcam, waiting for the meeting to start, and I can feel my voice turning into elevator music before I’ve even opened my mouth. I k...
Read moreCan micro-expressions make or break first impressions?
Yesterday morning I was in the queue at Pret, headphones on, half awake. The barista called “Olivia?” I’m clearly not Olivia, so I scrunched my brows ...
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## intro: a party, a fridge, and that one guy who never shuts up...
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## the moment the playlist kicks in and your brain hits 1.5x speed ...
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